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It seems like the world's going through a collective moment of uncertainty right now with the outbreak of the novel coronavirus

it seems like the world's going through a collective moment of uncertainty right now with the outbreak of the novel

Or covid-19. The markets have been taking every kind of public event has been canceled and people are scared

coronavirus or kovat 19 the markets have been taking every kind of public event has been canceled and people are scared

This is the first time something like this is happening in my adult life

this is the first time something like this is happening in my adult life but I

but I spent a lot of time thinking about this over the last few days and I came to the conclusion that

spent a lot of time thinking about this over the last few days and I came to the

It's not like any of this is new really. I mean, I know it feels like it is and I'm not trying to minimize

conclusion that it's not like any of this is new really I mean I know it feels like it is and I'm not trying to

Anybody's fears anywhere around the world. It's just that every new reason to worry feels novel and urgent

minimize anybody's fears anywhere around the world it's just that every new reason to worry feels novel and urgent

But at the same time the world has never been a certain place ever

but at the same time the world has never been a certain place ever it just hasn't

It just hasn't we've tried very hard to make it that way

we've tried very hard to make it that

But any history book has more than enough proof to tell a different story. Nobody can escape uncertainty including the rich and powerful

way but any history book has more than enough proof to tell a different story nobody can escape uncertainty including

I'm currently in France right now, which is a country that beheaded its last king

the rich and powerful I'm currently in France right now which is a country that beheaded its last king so don't even ask

So don't even ask me why I voluntarily chose to come live here

me why I voluntarily chose to come live

I guess they also have French kissing so it evens out what I'm saying

here I guess they also have French kissing so it evens out what I'm saying is that

Is that things go wrong all the time? In fact anything that can go wrong will go wrong

things go wrong all the time in fact anything that can go wrong will go wrong

I'm sure you've heard that one before it's Murphy's Law

I'm sure you've heard that one before

He's been a great guy at parties. Uncertainty is a scary thing millions of people are unable to work as they normally would right now

it's Murphy's Law you know great guy parties uncertainty is a scary thing millions of people are unable to work as

Every student that I know has had their internships or classes cancelled if you had travel plans

they normally would right now every student that I know has had their internships or classes cancelled if you

I bet you they've changed. Mine certainly have, I only arrived here like three weeks ago

had travel plans I bet you they've changed mind certainly have I only arrived here like three

And it feels a little bit like my life is has been put on hold. It's just that everything outside has been shut down

weeks ago and it feels a little bit like my life is has been put on hold it's just that everything outside has

So this Black Swan has touched us all the news cycle has entered turbo mode as we all

been shut down so this Black Swan has touched us all the news cycle has entered turbo mode as we all try to keep

Try to keep up with what's going on and figure out like what to do about it

up with what's going on and figure out

And I think a really good question to ask right now is how do you avoid?

like what to do about it and I think a really good question to ask right now is how do you avoid falling down the rabbit

Falling down the rabbit hole with pessimism and worry. What do you do when it feels like everything's falling apart

hole with pessimism and worry what do you do when it feels like everything's

It's an applicable question for all kinds of situations and circumstances

falling apart it's an applicable question for all kinds of situations and circumstances

While outside of what's going on right now

while outside of what's going on right

The common sense advice that we all hear is to be as prepared as possible

now the common sense advice that we all hear is to be as prepared as possible

Positive affirmations put money into saving stock up on toilet paper save a little extra rice and by all means go for it

positive affirmations put money into saving stock up on toilet paper save a little extra rice and by all means go

I mean, I don't think any of that is bad advice

for it I mean I don't think any of that

But there's only so much that you can prepare for really I mean what if a meteorite hit our planning, you know?

is bad advice but there's only so much that you can prepare for really I mean what if a meteorite hit our

That's an example that has actually happened before what I mean is how was anyone supposed to predict that this was going to happen?

planning you know that's an example that has actually happened before what I mean is how was anyone supposed to predict that this was going to happen how do you

How do you prepare for the unforeseeable life is a funny thing

prepare for the unforeseeable life is a

We spend all of our time and energy trying to control everything as much as we can

funny thing we spend all of our time and energy trying to control everything as much as

The crazy thing is it's all an illusion. It doesn't matter how much money you have how

we can the crazy thing is it's all an illusion it doesn't matter how much money you have how connected you are how

Connected you are how prepared you think you might be life. Does whatever life wants

prepared you think you might be life does whatever life wants you can do your

You can do your best and I believe you should but then after that it's kind of out of your hands

best and I believe you should but then after that it's kind of out of your

you cannot control what you do not know and there's actually a lot that we don't know about the world and the universe that we

hands you cannot control what you do not know and there's actually a lot that we don't know about the world and the

Live in I feel like my existentialism is showing again, my bad

universe that we live in I feel like my existentialism is showing again my bad

The reality that things do not go according to plan is something that most of us would prefer not to

the reality that things do not go according to plan is something that most

Talk or even think about it's not a comforting idea. I get that like many of you

of us would prefer not to talk or even think about it's not a comforting idea I

I have gone through my own personal self improvement journey over the last couple of years and I've learned a lot about myself

get that like many of you I have gone through my own personal self improvement journey over the last couple of years and I've learned a lot about myself

Throughout this whole process but one thing that has slowly dawned on me. Is that no matter how hard I try?

throughout this whole process but one thing that has slowly dawned on me is that no matter how hard I try that hole

that hole that I feel within myself can never be filled through productivity or

that I feel within myself can never be filled through productivity or

Organization or performance? Those are all temporary answers to a bigger question

organization or performance those are all temporary answers to a bigger

So if that's not the solution what is like, what do you do?

question so if that's not the solution what is like what do you do there's more

There's more to life than solving problems and achieving goals

to life than solving problems and

What I'd like to propose is a slightly different way of looking at when things go wrong

achieving goals what I'd like to propose is a slightly different way of looking at when things go wrong there's a Latin

There's a Latin phrase "Errare humanum est"

phrase or a human who is I mean I have

I have no idea if I'm saying that right probably not but it doesn't matter translated

no idea if I'm saying that right probably not but it doesn't matter

It means to err is human. But that root word, err, which is a synonym in English for making a mistake

translated it means to err is human but that root word err which is a synonym in English for making a mistake you have a

You have a different meaning in that it was something more along the lines of to wander or to stray

different meaning in that it was something more along the lines of to wander or to stray something about that

Something about that is very intriguing to me. What are we doing? If not wandering through this existence?

is very intriguing to me what are we doing if not wandering through this

Isn't that the story of humanity, isn't it?

existence isn't that the story of

Always about our search to understand the world that we live in and what we're all doing here

humanity isn't it always about our search to understand the world that we

What if instead of running from the uncomfortable messy stuff we accepted that those are that's part of the rules of the game

live in and what we're all doing here what if instead of running from the uncomfortable messy stuff we accepted that those are that's part of the rules

I consider Buddhism an incredibly applicable philosophy in times like these. A core theme of Buddhism is the

of the game I consider Buddhism and incredibly applicable philosophy in times like it's a core theme of Buddhism is the

Impermanence of all things in life in the universe basically everything comes to an end. This is idea

impermanence of all things in life in the universe basically everything comes

They call "samsara"

to an end this is idea they call samsara

Which is that suffering is born out of our belief that things in our lives will endure that

which is that suffering is born out of our belief that things in our lives will

ultimately

endure that ultimately we can find a way

We can find a way to always be happy and avoid pain essentially believing that that which you are striving for will

to always be happy and avoid pain essentially believing that that which you are striving for will fulfill the

Fulfill the lack that you feel within yourself if Buddhism isn't really your thing fine

lack that you feel within yourself if Buddhism isn't really a thing fine

The Bible says "For dust thou art and unto dust shalt thou return"

the Bible says for dust thou art and unto dust shalt thou return

The same root idea is there we're not going to be here forever

the same root idea is there we're not

At first that sounds like a depressing thought really like what's the point right?

going to be here forever at first that sounds like a depressing thought really like what's the point right

But then you realize that that's still buying into the same game and that accepting

but then you realize that that's still buying into the same game and that

This is a way out of the rat race of consumerism and materialism

accepting this is a way out of the rat race of consumerism and materialism it's

It's liberating. There are so many other ways to spend your time and energy than what society pressures us to do

liberating there are so many other ways to spend your time and energy than what

There's two ways that we could look at what's going on right now or any point in human history for that matter

society pressures us to do there's two ways that we could look at what's going on right now or any point in human

It's true that in scary times people sometimes

history for that matter it's true that in scary times people sometimes act with

Act with poor judgment out of fear, but there's also been all this incredible stuff showing up on the Internet.

poor judgment out of fear but there's also been all this incredible stuff showing up on the Internet

I find the videos of people singing together to pass the time during quarantine periods to be particularly impactful

I find the videos of people singing together to pass the time during quarantine periods to be particularly

So anyway figuring out how to handle things falling apart is something

impactful so anyway figuring out how to handle things falling apart or something

I think about a lot being the little warrior that I am

I think about a lot being the little

I hold myself to a very high standard and I'm very hard on myself

warrior that I am I hold myself to a very high standard and I'm very hard on

When things inevitably don't go according to plan

myself when things inevitably don't go

Pema Chodron is an American nun and a huge recent inspiration of mine and she offers three methods for handling

according to plan Pema Chodron is an American nun and a huge recent inspiration of mine and she offers three methods for handling chaos

Chaos, the first is practicing acceptance. It feels very counter intuitive, but it's not about fighting. It's about embracing

the first is practicing acceptance it feels very counter intuitive but it's not about fighting it's about embracing

Where we're at in life the things that we feel, you know, confronting them and exploring them people

where we're at in life the things that we feel you know confronting them and

Just say to get out of your comfort zone, but it's a lot more than that

exploring them people just say to get out of your comfort zone but it's a lot

It's getting to the essence of the things that scare you

more than that it's getting to the essence of the things that scare you

Becoming intimate with that honestly the second is practicing tong len, which is very very simple

becoming intimate with that honestly ii is practicing tong len which is very

It's basically when you breathe in you breathe in others pain and when you breathe out

very simple it's basically when you breathe in you breathe in others pain

You send them relief you can do this with any kind of suffering and it's a wonderful meditation exercise

and when you breathe out you send them relief you can do this with any kind of suffering and it's a wonderful

you can actually begin by doing this for yourself and then

meditation exercise you can actually begin by doing this for yourself and

Expanding it out to all beings that can suffer in the ways that you can the third is to look at anything that happens to

then expanding it out to all beings that can suffer in the ways that you can the third is to look at anything that

You as awakened energy in her words fear is a universal experience

happens to you as awakened energy in her words fear is a universal experience

even the smallest insect feels it

even the smallest insect fields it's not

It's not a terrible thing that we feel fear when faced with the unknown it is part of being alive something we all share

a terrible thing that we feel fear when faced with the unknown it is part of being alive something we all share we

We react against the possibility of loneliness of death of not having anything to hold on to

react against the possibility of loneliness of death of not having

Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth

anything to hold on to fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth

If we commit ourselves to staying right where we are

if we commit ourselves to staying right

Then our experience becomes very vivid things become very clear when there is nowhere to escape

where we are then our experience becomes very vivid things become very clear when there is nowhere to escape there's actually a

There's actually a second part to the Latin phrase that I shared earlier

second part to the Latin phrase that I

And it varies slightly depending on the source

shared earlier and it varies slightly

Another you gonna bother trying to say because I have no idea how to it more or less

depending on the source another you gonna bother trying to say because I have no idea how to it more or less

Translates to but to persist in error is diabolical. The way I interpret this is that we may be human beings

translates to but to persist in error is diabolical the way I interpret this is that we may be human beings wandering in

wandering in this funky confusing world, but it is always your responsibility to continue learning whether or not things go your way

this funky confusing world but it is always your responsibility to continue learning whether or not things go your way

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Just a final thought

your support just a final thought that I

That I wanted to share with you guys since so many things are up in the air right now

wanted to share with you guys since so

I have a couple of videos that I shot last year that will be coming out in the next couple of weeks

many things are up in the air right now I have a couple of videos that I shot last year that will be coming out in the

I felt like I had to post this first because a lot of my content is travel related and to just continue posting travel related

next couple of weeks I felt like I had to post this first because a lot of my content is travel related and to just continue posting travel related content

content right now without

right now without addressing what's

Addressing what's going on felt mildly inappropriate. So with that being said, I'll see you guys soon

going on felt mildly inappropriate so with that being said I'll see you guys soon [Music]