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- Hey, everybody.
Hola a todos. Feliz jueves.
Happy Thursday. Now today's question is all about
La pregunta de hoy se trata
borderline personality disorder and splitting.
del trastorno de personalidad limítrofe y fragmentación.
Now if you don't know what BPD is,
Si no conocen el TPL,
I would encourage you to watch some of my older videos
los invito a que vean otros de mis videos
about it so that you get an idea
acerca de eso para que tengan una idea
about what I'm talking about, because today's video
de lo que hablo, ya que este video
is specific to splitting, and the question is,
es específicamente sobre fragmentación.
I'm just gonna read you what they asked.
La pregunta es... Se la voy a leer:
They said, what is splitting in BPD,
"¿Qué es la fragmentación en el TPL
and how can I stop it?
y cómo puedo frenarla?
Can you please do more videos on splitting and BPD,
¿Puedes hacer más videos sobre el tema,
how to figure out when I'm splitting
cómo saber cuándo se tiene una fragmentación
and when the person in question is actually toxic?
y cuándo la persona en cuestión es tóxica?"
I thought this was a wonderful question,
Creí que era una pregunta maravillosa
because I hadn't really thought about it that way.
porque no lo había pensado de esa manera.
Now, when someone has borderline personality disorder,
Cuando alguien padece trastorno de personalidad limítrofe,
they tend to see people as all good or all bad,
tiende a ver a la gente como toda buena o toda mala.
meaning that someone who is good can't make a mistake,
Es decir, que alguien bueno no puede cometer errores
and someone who is bad cannot be kind or thoughtful.
y alguien malo no puede ser amable o considerado.
Relationships are seen kind of in a black or white
Ven las relaciones como blanco o negro, todo o nada.
or all or nothing. They kind of get caught up in that feeling
Se encierran en ese sentimiento
and thinking that people are either gonna hurt us
y piensan que la gente solo va a lastimarlos
or they're only going to help us, and there's no in between.
o a ayudarlos, no hay un punto medio.
Now, what I find interesting and kind of ironic
Ahora, lo que encuentro interesante y algo irónico
is that people who are in relationships with people
es que la gente que tiene una relación con alguien
who use splitting as a defense mechanism
que usa la fragmentación como mecanismo de defensa,
tend to see the BPD person as horrible,
tiende ver al paciente como terrible,
hurtful, and just bad.
hiriente y malo.
It's almost like splitting causes
Es casi como si el paciente
a self-fulfilling prophesy or is self-sabotage
dividiera las causas como una profecía de autosatisfacción
for the BPD person.
o autosabotaje.
And honestly, that just really sucks,
Y, a decir verdad, eso está mal
because by separating people out like this,
porque, al dividir así a la gente,
making people all good or all bad,
viéndola buena o mala,
those with BPD could think
aquéllos con este trastorno pueden creer
that they're protecting themselves.
que se están protegiendo.
We know, I've talked to many of you
Sabemos... Se lo he dicho a uds.
and even patients in my practice.
y a pacientes que he tenido.
When we're doing this, we're doing it
Cuando hacemos eso, lo hacemos
because we want to protect ourselves from getting hurt
porque queremos protegernos de sentirnos lastimados
or feeling abandoned.
o abandonados.
If you don't remember, one of the main, I don't know,
Por si no recuerdan, algo básico... No sé,
I guess like a pillar of BPD, one of the main symptoms,
un pilar del TPL, uno de sus síntomas principales
is fear of abandonment, and so if when someone
es el miedo al abandono. Así que,
does something that we find hurtful,
cuando alguien hace algo que nos parece ofensivo,
they're all bad and we get rid of them,
decimos que todos son malos y nos alejamos,
we're protecting ourselves, right?
nos estamos protegiendo.
We're preventing them from abandoning us
Prevenimos que nos abandonen
or hurting us further.
o que nos lastimen más.
And so if someone shows some of those bad signs,
Entonces, cuando alguien da esas señales negativas,
we get rid of them.
nos alejamos de él;
We end that relationship right away.
terminamos con esa relación de inmediato.
But what this actually ends up doing
Sin embargo, lo que termina sucediendo
is pushing everyone in our life away
es que alejamos a todo mundo de nuestra vida
and leaving us isolated and alone,
y nos quedamos aislados y solos.
and it can be really really hard to notice
Esto puede ser muy difícil de ver
when we're doing it, and even harder to stop,
cuando lo hacemos y es más difícil dejar de hacerlo,
and this is really important to understand,
pero es muy importante entenderlo.
because in my experience my patients always talk
En mi experiencia, mi pacientes siempre hablan
about how splitting, you know once we've put a name to it,
de cómo la fragmentación, una vez que le dimos nombre,
ends up causing more self-harm urges
termina provocando más necesidad de autodañarse
and hatred for themselves, because if you remember
y odio hacia uno mismo.
much of BPD is anger in.
Si recuerdan, gran parte del TPL es ira reprimida;
Even though a lot of people tend to only want to talk
aunque muchas personas tienden a querer hablar
about the anger outside of it.
de ella de manera externa.
But it really goes both ways.
Pero va hacia ambas partes.
So the sooner we can recognize our urge to split and manage it, the better it'll be for everyone.
Por lo tanto, entre más pronto reconozcamos la necesidad de fragmentar y la controlemos, mejor será para todos.
Now, aside from learning some emotion regulation techniques
Ahora, podemos aprender técnicas de control emocional
such as check the facts or using HALT,
como monitorear los hechos o el HALT:
hunger angry lonely tired, to reduce our vulnerability
hambre, enojo, soledad, cansancio, para reducir
to our emotion mind and we could do impulse logs
nuestra vulnerabilidad emocional; también monitorear
to slow our responses to any upset,
nuestros impulsos y reducir nuestras respuestas
the real trick to beating this is just to know
a los conflictos; pero, además, el secreto para vencer esto
when you're doing it.
es saber cuándo lo haces.
Get better at recognizing when you're triggered
Practica para reconocer cuál es tu detonador
and when you want to split someone into all good or all bad.
y cuándo fragmentas a alguien en bueno o malo.
So now to really dig into this specific question,
Ahora, para adentrarnos en esta pregunta específica,
how do we know when we are splitting
"¿cómo sabemos cuando nos fragmentamos
and when someone is actually toxic and a terrible friend?
y cuando alguien sí es tóxico y un amigo terrible?"
The answer, be a detective.
La respuesta es sean detectives.
Notice if you're using words like always or never
Observen si usan palabras como "siempre" o "nunca"
and then look for evidence to argue against the thought.
y busquen pruebas para refutar ese pensamiento.
Have they really never been there for you?
¿De verdad nadie nunca ha estado ahí?
Are they always hurtful and rude?
¿Todos siempre son groseros e hirientes?
Actually think about it and see if you can come up
De hecho, piensen en ello y vean si tienen pruebas
with some evidence to support another way of thinking.
para respaldar otra manera de pensar.
If you can find that evidence,
Si pueden encontrar esas pruebas,
then it's quite possible that you're splitting.
es posible que estén fragmentando.
If you do see a pattern of them harming you,
Si, por otra parte, ven un patrón en otros
treating you poorly, and lying, et cetera,
de lastimarlos, tratarlos mal, mentir, etc.,
then they may just be toxic.
entonces ellos son los tóxicos.
But to dig in to what I was talking about before,
Para adentrarnos en lo que estaba diciendo,
recognize when you are triggered
reconozcan cuál es su detonante
and work on becoming more aware of the things
y trabajen en ser más conscientes de las cosas
that hurt you and trigger this defense mechanism,
que los lastiman y detonan este mecanismo de defensa,
'cause that's what splitting really is.
porque eso es la fragmentación.
So is it when you feel put down?
¿Es cuando los humillan?
Maybe when you feel ignored?
¿Quizá cuando se sienten ignorados?
Overlooked?
¿Cuando se les quedan viendo?
Start paying attention so that you can get better
Empiecen a ponerles atención para que mejoren
at recognizing what it is that upsets you most
en reconocer qué es lo que los molesta más
and causes these black and white thoughts.
y provoca estos pensamientos de blanco y negro.
That way, if we find ourselves wanting to end
De esa manera, si nos encontramos queriendo terminar
a relationship, we can check in to see
una relación, podremos analizar y ver
if we're just triggered, or if they really aren't
si algo nos detonó o si no vale la pena
worth having in our lives anymore.
tener a esa persona en nuestra vida.
I hope this helps, but as always, feel free to share
Espero que esto les sirva, pero, como siempre,
what has helped you in those comments down below.
siéntanse libres de compartir en los comentarios
Do you have BPD and you're able to manage the urges
qué les ha ayudado. ¿Tienen TPL y son capaces
to split people?
de controlar la necesidad de fragmentar a otros?
Let us know in those comments down below,
Hágannoslo saber en los comentarios.
and I will see you next time.
Los veré la próxima.
Bye!
¡Adiós!
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