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Too Religious Spouses - Yasmin Mogahed
Pasangan Terlalu Religius - Yasmin Mogahed
Final question for the night, inshaAllah.
Pertanyaan terakhir untuk malam ini, insya Allah.
The question states
Pertanyaannya adalah
that there have been marriages that have fallen
bahwa ada pernikahan yang rusak
due to too religious spouses.
karena pasangannya terlalu religius.
So, how can we stop the other extreme form of relief?
Bagaimana menghentikan sikap ekstrim semacam ini?
That's messed up.
Sikap itu benar-benar kacau.
So, here's the thing,
Jadi, ada satu hal,
I'm gonna tell you guys a big secret, okay.
saya akan memberitahu Anda sebuah rahasia besar, oke.
The Prophet (ﷺ), nobody loves God more than him.
Tidak ada yang mencintai Allah lebih dari Nabi (ﷺ).
And if you study how he was with his wives,
Jika Anda pelajari bagaimana beliau memperlakukan istrinya,
I mean it's like stuff that we would be like,
maksud saya, kita akan terkesima seperti,
"Oh my god," you know.
"Wow banget!"
Like, I'll give an example.
Saya akan memberikan contoh.
He is asked in a public play,
Beliau ditanya di tempat biasa berkumpul,
like a public setting,
di area umum,
"Who do you love most?"
"Siapa yang paling Anda cintai?"
Can you imagine?
Bisa Anda bayangkan?
Like one of our Shuyuukh in one of these big setting,
Seperti bila salah satu Syekh dalam satu forum besar ditanya,
"Who do you love most?"
"Siapa yang paling Anda cintai?"
And he goes, "Aisha."
Beliau jawab, "Aisyah."
"My wife."
"Istriku."
He's not just showing affection
Beliau tidak hanya menunjukkan kasih sayang
in private in this case, right?
secara pribadi dalam hal ini, bukan?
Affection verbally obviously,
Beliau secara verbal menunjukkan kasih sayangnya,
he's (ﷺ) publicly announcing his love for his wife.
beliau (ﷺ) secara terbuka mengumumkan cintanya kepada istrinya.
He said Aisha.
Beliau mengatakan Aisyah.
And then this companion,
Kemudian sahabat yang bertanya ini,
this is a beautiful thing,
uniknya,
companion thought is was gonna say him.
sahabat ini mengira beliau akan menyebut namanya.
And so he's like,
Dia lalu mengklarifikasi,
"No, no, no, from among the men?"
"Tidak, tidak, tidak, maksudnya di antara laki-laki?"
Cause he's thinking he is next.
Karena dikiranya dialah yang paling dicintai sesudah Aisyah.
And he goes, "Her father."
Beliau menjawab, "Ayahnya."
But the point is that
Tapi intinya adalah bahwa
even when he's mentioning Abu Bakr (رضي الله تعالى عنه),
bahkan ketika beliau menyebut Abu Bakar (رضي الله تعالى عنه),
he uses Aisha as the reference point.
beliau menggunakan Aisyah sebagai titik acuan.
Even the way he's talking about her.
Bahkan dalam cara beliau berbicara tentang Aisyah.
He doesn't even say Abu Bakr (رضي الله تعالى عنه),
Beliau bahkan tidak mengatakan Abu Bakar (رضي الله تعالى عنه),
he says, "Her father."
beliau berkata, "Ayahnya."
So in the way he used to be with his wives (ﷺ).
Dalam cara beliau (ﷺ) memperlakukan istri-istrinya.
If he sees her drinking from a cup,
Jika beliau melihatnya minum dari cangkir,
he would see where she put her mouth
beliau akan melihat di mana ia meletakkan mulutnya
and put his mouth on the same spot on purpose.
dan menempatkan mulutnya di tempat yang sama dengan sengaja.
He showed affection.
Beliau menunjukkan kasih sayang.
And there are many examples of this affection
Ada banyak contoh kasih sayang seperti ini
that they had.
yang mereka miliki.
This idea that you're so lost in God,
Pemahaman bahwa begitu khusyuknya beribadah pada Allah,
you cannot show affection,
sehingga tidak bisa menunjukkan kasih sayang,
that's messed up.
itu benar-benar kacau.
I'm sorry but you just lost,
Maaf, tapi Anda tersesat,
you're not just lost in God.
Anda tidak hanya tersesat beribadah pada Allah.
And the reality is, that not showing affection
Kenyataannya, tidak menunjukkan kasih sayang
is not a sign of spirituality.
bukanlah tanda spiritualitas,
It's maybe a sign of having a hard heart.
tapi mungkin merupakan tanda dari hati yang keras.
And the Prophet (ﷺ) once saw a man.
Nabi (ﷺ) pernah melihat seorang laki-laki.
There was a man who thought he was boasting
Ada seorang pria yang ingin berlagak
and he said, "I have all these children
dengan berkata, "Saya punya banyak anak
and I've never hugged or kissed them."
tapi saya tidak pernah memeluk atau mencium mereka."
He thought he was like getting extra points for that.
Dia pikir dia akan lebih unggul karena hal itu.
And the Prophet (ﷺ) said,
Nabi (ﷺ) menjawab,
"What can I do if Allah has taking the mercy
"Apalagi yang bisa kulakukan jika Allah telah mengambil kasih sayang
out of your heart."
dari hatimu."
Do you understand?
Anda paham kan?
Like, if mercy and compassion
Jika rasa kasih sayang dan iba
has been taken out of your heart, what can I do for you?
telah diambil dari hatimu, apalagi yang bisa kulakukan untukmu?
It's not a sign of piety that you don't show affection.
Tidak menunjukkan kasih sayang bukan tanda kesalehan.
The Prophet (ﷺ) was the most in love with God
Nabi (ﷺ) adalah orang yang paling cinta pada Allah,
and he was the most affectionate.
beliau juga orang yang paling menunjukkan kasih sayang.
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